To Blog or Not to Blog...

So I've been in mental limbo over this very issue...

Should I cease and desist from blogging??? Or should I merely limit said blogging to public subject matter? Am I too old for this whole activity altogether?

IS BLOGGING REALLY WORTH IT?!?!?

Reason being, in the last year, I've succeeded in angering two (count them, 1...2....) former acquaintances via commentary on my blog. Now mind you, the blogs were completely anonymous and vague in their verbage, but these individuals decoded the content and for whatever reason, were angry that they'd been discussed.

**insert blank stare here**

Uhhh... HELLO goofball! No one knows its about YOU! This is 150% truth I'm speaking here... no lies no fabrications! But later I learned that in both instances, those people were "busted" by their significant others and thought my "public blog" might have something to do with it.

**insert screw face here**

Uhhh... all I did was type an editorial. YOU"RE THE ONE who was living lies and messing people over! Tighten up ya pimp game, peoples!

So anyway, yeah. For the sake of avoiding situations like those, I've somewhat conceeded to just post blogs about relevant PUBLIC subject matter. Happy now, snitches??? **eeggghhhh**

SG

So I have stalkers, eh?

Question of the day:

If you cared about someone and even went the distance of showing that person that they were special to you, what difference would it make if your association/affection for that person went public?

My answer? It becomes a problem when what you're doing is being done DECEPTIVELY and you've not been honest with one or more parties that you're also involved with (romantically).

Several happenings in the last 6 months have revealed and confirmed that yes, I am being WATCHED. Wow. I'm flattered. Really. Honestly though, it poses no real problem because I know how to conceal what cannot be revealed. I live a very straight-forward life. Fast-paced and exciting? Yes. Scandalous and hypocritical? No.

But for those around me that do have a LOT to hide, its gotten a bit hairy and quite honestly, pathetic. I'm too grown for this.

Grow up peoples.

SG~

Friday Fabulosity

Yes yall... it IS indeed FRIDAY and I am INDEED, still FABULOUS. ((No autographs, please.)) Today marks the kick-off for Labor Day weekend and I'm somewhat excited/joyful/anxious/relieved about knowing that 1) I'm leaving my office early and 2) I won't see this place again until Tuesday. Ahhhhh... let the vacay begin! Tonight, I'm hosting a partay with my boy from college, hit producer DJ Don Cannon from the ATL and it should be a pretty nice event. I'm excited since I've pretty much been 'on ice' for the last few months. Knowing me, I'll be in early but we'll see.

POP QUIZ IF THE DAY:

Worth 10 cool points.....

What Martin character said, "Red beans and gravy... I aint too lazy!"??????????????

5 Bonus Points if you can tell me another quote from this character.

5 MORE Bonus Points if you can actually SING the song from that scene.

HINT! THeres a video clip in the right-side toolbar of this VERY scene... lol ;-)

I gotta do something so I'll post again later........

BRB

Summer G

"Q&A with Summer G and Rai"

I was reading Rai's blog and she posed the following (rhetorical) questions to her readers. I'm choosing to respond to them here in my blog because I think it opens dialogue on a few subjects... or maybe just a little insight into how my mind works.


Will women ever really be happy? One minute we want something... two seconds later it all changes?

Some women will be happy. Some cant ever be happy. Its about growth.

Is there really a such thing as Mr. Right?

Yes there is a Mr. Right... often we just settle for "Mr. Right-Now" to quinch a thirst for companionship and THEEEENNN we try to TURN HIM INTO "Mr.Right" after we've fallen in love and invested emotions, effort and time into the relationship.

Are all women secretly attracted to other women? (at least sexually)
No, unless you live in ATL or your name is Rai and you have a son named Sun. (lol) Okay, I'm just joking (not really). But I know you aint trippin my nig... you're secure in yourself to take me crackin on you. Its all in fun.

Do your thoughts really determine your destiny?
Yes. You will only become as great as your mind can invision you to be. As a man thinketh, so is he. If you continually think evil thoughts, its only natural that you begin to see yourself carrying out evil deeds. The same goes for everything else. Your input determines your output. Its just that simple.

Will man/woman ever completely be satisfied with their counterpart?
Satisfaction with a counterpart can only come from satisfaction with self and maturity. DISsatisfaction is a product of insecurities and distrust... miscommunication... a whole slew of problematic issues. Maturity is the first step in addressing the issues.

Does Mr./Mrs. Perfect really exist?
No, I dont believe there has ever been born a "Mr./Mrs. Perfect", but there is a "Mr. Perfect for you". Someone created specifically for you... who knows HOW to love you the way you need to be loved... who understands that WHY he was born, was to be your protector and provider. Most times, the "Mr./Mrs. Perfect" title is related to the tangible and physical attributes, when in actuality, it SHOULD BE about how you and that person relate to one another and what you offer to each other's lives.

Why do people complain about their surroundings but neglect to change themselves.... ?
People complain because it excuses their own actions as being the cause to WHY there are in the situations they are in. If you notice, people dont complain about themselves, they complain about everyone else as it they had no part in the circumstances. These people are toxic. BEWARE!

Why are we so afraid to step outside of our comfort zone?

Stepping outside of the "comfort zone" opens you up to so many fears- rejection, failure, not measuring up, etc. To totally walk into a new situation or a new relationship requires courage and hope that even IF the unthinkable occurs, its not the end of the world and that there's still a light at the end of the tunnel. To shun change and new people/places/relationships is to say to self that "this is as good as it gets... better hold on to what i got!".

THAT WAS FUN! Thanks Rai.

~SG

Wednesday Ramblings...

This morning, I had the (pleasure) of attending an NFL Charity Luncheon with my best friend. GOOD TIMES, let me tell ya... and NOT for obvious reasons (being among the top 1% of attractive women in the room, amongst 53 players on the roster and hundreds of the city's leading philanthropists, CEO's and "who's whose". Oh no... the FUN part was people watching... and watching the people watching (me). HA! I think I put more thought into what I was gonna wear to this lil shindig than I've put into anything in a while. Hmmmm... I've got to get out more. All in all though, it was for a great cause and I'm really digging the social/charitable scene more and more these days. JUST the jump start I need for The SPARK!

Moving along~~~ me and the pig had this hypothetical discussion about current wedding trends and what is a "reasonable" budget to devote to the ceremony. By conversations' end, I'd concluded that for a household income of $200K, $20K was more than enough to devote to a wedding. Period. On the flip side, I could almost appreciate a small, intimate wedding with family and friends on a $10K budget, provided that the remaining $$$ be invested into something lucrative. Hey, I'm all about the fairytale too, but I like MAKING money... not throwing it away!

In other news~~~I'm reading a lot more these days. Reading helps me to "center" myself and my goals. It calms me down and forces me to get still, in my otherwise eventfully chaotic day. Now that I think on it, perhaps thats not really "newsworthy" but it still matters. I'd gotten so busy that my trips to B&N and Borders had become a luxury. Thats all changing now. I've learned to lighten my load and not let so many things get my attention. Its all about BALANCE now... and making time for the things that matter.

Am I rambling? Probably. Oh well, its my blog.

Backtracking a bit, the guy that sat next to me today at the luncheon was really nice... friendly... conversational... MARRIED. (lol) He talked to us the whoooollle program and by the end, was trying to "fix me up" with his attorney friend, only to disclose moments later that said attorney is 5'9". NOT THE KID! Yall know I like 'em tall so we had to Eighty-Six that notion. But I appreciated the notion. He couldn't have me so he wanted his friend to. Too thoughtful and cute, right?! lol

I'm thinking perhaps its time for ya girl to get back into the swing of dating. I've been on reserve by choice for quite some time. Maybe I'm due for a little affection. Hmmmmm....

Me thinks so.

SG~

Knockin My Hustle...

Cant do it. Sometimes, I look at my accomplishments and I get semi-proud of myself... or rather its not pride that I feel, but a sense of resilience... strength... stamina. I know I can go the distance. Maybe thats why I keep pushing myself so hard... why I reach so high. Its crazy. And these thoughts, this blog- even crazier. Life is such a blessing. Opportunities, each and every one, are priceless. You cant look back at any chance happenings or random occurrences in your day and honestly believe that they were insignificant to your existence. That would be sheer foolishness! Not only in matters of money or love, but in LIFE! And so, I look back on the most minut details of my life... people I've met, places I've been... places I wanted to go and didnt or couldnt... maybe even people I didnt meet but wanted to. Point is, I try to not take any of these things for granted. Good and bad, joyful and painful, they've all shaped me into the Summer of today. Am I perfect? Heck no. But I'm prefectly made (fearfully and wonderfully by God) so, everything that is meant for me to become or obtain, I will. And every test or trial that I'm faced with, I can overcome because, I was perfectly made to handle JUST THAT situation. Everything I need to weather the storm is already within me. Isn't that a great comfort to have? To know that, when I goto battle that I have every weapon and skill necessary to claim the victory?!? It really doesnt get any better. God is the TRUTH!

And so anyway, I'm sitting her reflecting and hopefully, refracting a small affirmation to you that

you were BUILT for the battle. Its in you to WIN.

Get that.

~SG

A Year Older... Wiser... Happier.

Its been over a month since I've posted and even the last post wasnt about a dang thang. Everything has been moving so FAST lately. And then well, I turned 26 a couple weeks ago which was BY FAR the bestest birthday EVER....Why, you ask? Because I had an entire house full of family and friends singing (in 5 part harmony) that "I am the flower-thats-among-us". You had to be there. A truly tearjerking 5 stanzas it was.

To recap the last 60 or so days though...
Reentered corporate America after much resistance... but I'm so freegin happy with my job 'til it makes not nan bit of sense. God is GOOD! Found a new home in the heart of the city, so I'll be moving very soon... its so PLAYA PLAYA too! Can we say "Sex in the City meets Belly"? Yeah, its HAUTE! So every waking minute is spent shopping online for furniture. I've seen every website known to man woman and alien. Its become headache causing. :-( And then theres the luv life... the very luv life that I've vowed to keep private and off this site. But just know that ya girl is HAPPY and CONTENT with the current state of things. Be happy for me. *Insert smile here* Wrote a song for a very HOT HOT producer a couple weeks ago. We have to re-record this week with a new vocalist but its a dope record. Cross ya fingers... baby needs some Cantoni furniture! hehehe Started back working out in the gym recently... Today made my 6th consecutive day. YAY! I've got a 30 lb. goal.......... to reach by the end of the summer. EJ made me a meal plan today and I think I can actually do it in 6 weeks. Wanna bet me? See, I've been working out all along BUT it was all for naught because of my Boston Market Three-Side Sampler habit. My hungry-hungry hippo lookin a$$ thought that BM was a better health choice over fastfood each night for dinner sooooooooo........ for the last 2 months, I've been habitually stopping at BM for the #4 with Creamed Spinach, Sweet Potato Cassarole, Hot Cinnamon Apples and Cornbread (doesnt it taste like cake?!?)... all the while THINKING it had to be healthy for me... ITS VEGETABLES, right?! WRONG AGAIN! EJ did the Bodybugg thing today and we discovered that every time I ate that damn meal, I was ingesting about 1000 calories from that single serving. WTF!?!?!?!?!?

Needless to say, no more BM. I dont even want to tempt myself. My weakness for sweet potatoes is far too real. Instead, she has me on this meal plan that allows me 1700 calories daily... and I'm walking on a 11.0 incline at 3.8 mph on the treadmill, thanks to the suggestion of Oink. It used to be hard but its much easier now. Shannon is doing her boot camp sessions and we're both getting ready for our August 10th weigh in. Anybody got suggestions?? HOOK A SISTA UP!

No new Bill sightings. I'd hoped somehow, someway, he'd have made an appearance on my Bday... that wouldve been a PERFECT day for me. Well, it still was actually. But that came and went... as did Fathers Day. I really hope we talk soon. And strangely enough, same for an old high school "friend". This chick that I was close with during my senior year, and well, something of a misunderstanding came in between our friendship. Yeah it had to be that and some jealousy... seriously. And we've crossed paths in recent years when its been nothing but the fear of an assault charge from keeping me off that ass... because it would anger me that her stupidity threw out a good friendship over some BS and THEN had the nerve to be messy about it. WTF!? IS YOU SURRRRUS? But with time and wisdom comes patience, understanding and... get-over-it-ness. I'm over the drama. I'd like to talk to her. Air things out. Extend an olive branch, so to speak. Life is short and holding a grudge over her is NOT worth my blessings. No sir.

Yeah...
26 is already showing me wonderful possibilities and growth!

Thank you for being in my life, yall!

SG