Playing Dress-up for the Almighty Come-up!

For those that dont really know me, this may come as a shock BUT...

I'm not all that into Halloween. *gasp!* No really, I'm not. I think it lost its shine once I got too old to effectively trick-or-treat. I mean, it was much easier when I was about 8-12 but by the time I hit puberty the thrill was gone. Plus, I only like certain kinds of candy so all those filler-treats (generic butterscotch, jujubees, sweet tarts, etc...) were just space-takers in my jackolantern and ended up getting tossed out or pawned off on a greedy, desperate little cousin during a babysitter's round of "The Quiet Game". And then when I was in college at CAU, probably the Halloween of 1999, some thug committed a random drive-by egging which busted me SMACK in my mouth, leaving me with a busted bloody lip sooo yeah... I think that was the last time I even uttered TRICK OR TREAT. :-( But fast forward....

My property is having this super Monster Mash costume party tonite and Im actually considering entering! Surprised? Well you wont be once I reveal the 1st place prize.

A 32" Plasma TV. YES! AND a 3-month gym membership (dont need it b/c I'm already a member there) AND a $100 Gift Certificate to a pretty nice restaurant. KEWL right?!?

The images I posted above are a hint at my costume. This year, I'm gonna be.. ***DRUMROLL PLEASE*** THE SOCK MONSTER! You know, the urban-mythic creature that steals your socks while you're doing laundry!?!?! TOnite I will be scavangering (spellcheck?!?) for random socks from relatives homes. I have about an hour to collect as many ugly, mismatched socks as I can. And BEAU will be in tow... he's going as a Blue Bell Ice Cream cow. *MOOOOO*

I'll take pictures. Wish me a little luck! I'll be back later.

HAPPY STUPID COSTUME, FREE CANDY DAY!

SG!

You're Perfect But He Aint Ready

My GF sent me a message last month expressing her hurt and heartbreak over a guy she'd been seeing. Apparently, they'd been "dating" off and on for a period of 5 + years and recently had started seeing more of each other when BOOM! He starts hitting her with this indecisiveness that many men come with when faced with the decision of monogamy. Here is my response to her email...

No matter HOW perfect you are or how much you do to SHOW a man that you want him, UNLESS he is READY TO SETTLE DOWN, it is all for naught. I often discuss this with my male friends and 100% of them have agreed and admitted to dating at least one woman who was perfect in every desirable aspect... good credit, attractive, good career, educated, sweet, respectable, loyal, loving, good sex, etc... you name it, she's got it. BUT for them, its like, they think they have time. And until they finally decide that they want to be monogamous and have a long-term relationship, they keep on doing them. Women are just the opposite. Women find a good catch and settle down. MEN decide to settle down, then pick from whatever is most readily available... perfect or not.

I'm sorry that you're feeling so sad about this but during my first impression of him, he didnt strike me as being "good enough" for you... even on the surface. And the fact that its taken him 5+ years to "try and date you" is more evidence that he aint the MAN you need in your life. Trust me chica, when a MAN wants something/someone, there is no TRYING involved. He just does it. Impulsively and all. Sucks but its true. He's lame girl. Be glad that you CAN do better because you, my dear, are WORTH so much more than that.

I will post another installment about this subject later on but please leave comments if you came by to read.

CIAO!
SG~

To Blog or Not to Blog...

So I've been in mental limbo over this very issue...

Should I cease and desist from blogging??? Or should I merely limit said blogging to public subject matter? Am I too old for this whole activity altogether?

IS BLOGGING REALLY WORTH IT?!?!?

Reason being, in the last year, I've succeeded in angering two (count them, 1...2....) former acquaintances via commentary on my blog. Now mind you, the blogs were completely anonymous and vague in their verbage, but these individuals decoded the content and for whatever reason, were angry that they'd been discussed.

**insert blank stare here**

Uhhh... HELLO goofball! No one knows its about YOU! This is 150% truth I'm speaking here... no lies no fabrications! But later I learned that in both instances, those people were "busted" by their significant others and thought my "public blog" might have something to do with it.

**insert screw face here**

Uhhh... all I did was type an editorial. YOU"RE THE ONE who was living lies and messing people over! Tighten up ya pimp game, peoples!

So anyway, yeah. For the sake of avoiding situations like those, I've somewhat conceeded to just post blogs about relevant PUBLIC subject matter. Happy now, snitches??? **eeggghhhh**

SG

So I have stalkers, eh?

Question of the day:

If you cared about someone and even went the distance of showing that person that they were special to you, what difference would it make if your association/affection for that person went public?

My answer? It becomes a problem when what you're doing is being done DECEPTIVELY and you've not been honest with one or more parties that you're also involved with (romantically).

Several happenings in the last 6 months have revealed and confirmed that yes, I am being WATCHED. Wow. I'm flattered. Really. Honestly though, it poses no real problem because I know how to conceal what cannot be revealed. I live a very straight-forward life. Fast-paced and exciting? Yes. Scandalous and hypocritical? No.

But for those around me that do have a LOT to hide, its gotten a bit hairy and quite honestly, pathetic. I'm too grown for this.

Grow up peoples.

SG~

Friday Fabulosity

Yes yall... it IS indeed FRIDAY and I am INDEED, still FABULOUS. ((No autographs, please.)) Today marks the kick-off for Labor Day weekend and I'm somewhat excited/joyful/anxious/relieved about knowing that 1) I'm leaving my office early and 2) I won't see this place again until Tuesday. Ahhhhh... let the vacay begin! Tonight, I'm hosting a partay with my boy from college, hit producer DJ Don Cannon from the ATL and it should be a pretty nice event. I'm excited since I've pretty much been 'on ice' for the last few months. Knowing me, I'll be in early but we'll see.

POP QUIZ IF THE DAY:

Worth 10 cool points.....

What Martin character said, "Red beans and gravy... I aint too lazy!"??????????????

5 Bonus Points if you can tell me another quote from this character.

5 MORE Bonus Points if you can actually SING the song from that scene.

HINT! THeres a video clip in the right-side toolbar of this VERY scene... lol ;-)

I gotta do something so I'll post again later........

BRB

Summer G

"Q&A with Summer G and Rai"

I was reading Rai's blog and she posed the following (rhetorical) questions to her readers. I'm choosing to respond to them here in my blog because I think it opens dialogue on a few subjects... or maybe just a little insight into how my mind works.


Will women ever really be happy? One minute we want something... two seconds later it all changes?

Some women will be happy. Some cant ever be happy. Its about growth.

Is there really a such thing as Mr. Right?

Yes there is a Mr. Right... often we just settle for "Mr. Right-Now" to quinch a thirst for companionship and THEEEENNN we try to TURN HIM INTO "Mr.Right" after we've fallen in love and invested emotions, effort and time into the relationship.

Are all women secretly attracted to other women? (at least sexually)
No, unless you live in ATL or your name is Rai and you have a son named Sun. (lol) Okay, I'm just joking (not really). But I know you aint trippin my nig... you're secure in yourself to take me crackin on you. Its all in fun.

Do your thoughts really determine your destiny?
Yes. You will only become as great as your mind can invision you to be. As a man thinketh, so is he. If you continually think evil thoughts, its only natural that you begin to see yourself carrying out evil deeds. The same goes for everything else. Your input determines your output. Its just that simple.

Will man/woman ever completely be satisfied with their counterpart?
Satisfaction with a counterpart can only come from satisfaction with self and maturity. DISsatisfaction is a product of insecurities and distrust... miscommunication... a whole slew of problematic issues. Maturity is the first step in addressing the issues.

Does Mr./Mrs. Perfect really exist?
No, I dont believe there has ever been born a "Mr./Mrs. Perfect", but there is a "Mr. Perfect for you". Someone created specifically for you... who knows HOW to love you the way you need to be loved... who understands that WHY he was born, was to be your protector and provider. Most times, the "Mr./Mrs. Perfect" title is related to the tangible and physical attributes, when in actuality, it SHOULD BE about how you and that person relate to one another and what you offer to each other's lives.

Why do people complain about their surroundings but neglect to change themselves.... ?
People complain because it excuses their own actions as being the cause to WHY there are in the situations they are in. If you notice, people dont complain about themselves, they complain about everyone else as it they had no part in the circumstances. These people are toxic. BEWARE!

Why are we so afraid to step outside of our comfort zone?

Stepping outside of the "comfort zone" opens you up to so many fears- rejection, failure, not measuring up, etc. To totally walk into a new situation or a new relationship requires courage and hope that even IF the unthinkable occurs, its not the end of the world and that there's still a light at the end of the tunnel. To shun change and new people/places/relationships is to say to self that "this is as good as it gets... better hold on to what i got!".

THAT WAS FUN! Thanks Rai.

~SG

Wednesday Ramblings...

This morning, I had the (pleasure) of attending an NFL Charity Luncheon with my best friend. GOOD TIMES, let me tell ya... and NOT for obvious reasons (being among the top 1% of attractive women in the room, amongst 53 players on the roster and hundreds of the city's leading philanthropists, CEO's and "who's whose". Oh no... the FUN part was people watching... and watching the people watching (me). HA! I think I put more thought into what I was gonna wear to this lil shindig than I've put into anything in a while. Hmmmm... I've got to get out more. All in all though, it was for a great cause and I'm really digging the social/charitable scene more and more these days. JUST the jump start I need for The SPARK!

Moving along~~~ me and the pig had this hypothetical discussion about current wedding trends and what is a "reasonable" budget to devote to the ceremony. By conversations' end, I'd concluded that for a household income of $200K, $20K was more than enough to devote to a wedding. Period. On the flip side, I could almost appreciate a small, intimate wedding with family and friends on a $10K budget, provided that the remaining $$$ be invested into something lucrative. Hey, I'm all about the fairytale too, but I like MAKING money... not throwing it away!

In other news~~~I'm reading a lot more these days. Reading helps me to "center" myself and my goals. It calms me down and forces me to get still, in my otherwise eventfully chaotic day. Now that I think on it, perhaps thats not really "newsworthy" but it still matters. I'd gotten so busy that my trips to B&N and Borders had become a luxury. Thats all changing now. I've learned to lighten my load and not let so many things get my attention. Its all about BALANCE now... and making time for the things that matter.

Am I rambling? Probably. Oh well, its my blog.

Backtracking a bit, the guy that sat next to me today at the luncheon was really nice... friendly... conversational... MARRIED. (lol) He talked to us the whoooollle program and by the end, was trying to "fix me up" with his attorney friend, only to disclose moments later that said attorney is 5'9". NOT THE KID! Yall know I like 'em tall so we had to Eighty-Six that notion. But I appreciated the notion. He couldn't have me so he wanted his friend to. Too thoughtful and cute, right?! lol

I'm thinking perhaps its time for ya girl to get back into the swing of dating. I've been on reserve by choice for quite some time. Maybe I'm due for a little affection. Hmmmmm....

Me thinks so.

SG~